Last night, my wife and I went on a date for the first time in I don’t know how long. After we dropped off the kids at a friend’s house, we headed out to one of our favorite restaurants. On our way I laughed and said to my wife, “You excited about date night 2016?!” She laughed and of course she said yes, but I could tell she wasn’t quite getting the joke. So I explained it felt like we only went on one date each year, hence the Date Night 2016 title of our lovely evening out together without the kids.
This all got me really thinking about just how much I was slacking as a husband. It’s great that we want to do so much with our children and I get that. When it comes to my marriage however, I have some room for some much-needed improvement. Why am I waiting for the date night to happen and, what’s worse, why is it my wife that’s having to take the initiative to make it happen. Nothing against the fact she makes it happen, but every time? I had to check myself mentally – I said to myself, “Self, you need to seriously up your game bro!”
Spending that much-needed time with my beautiful wife for those couple of hours was amazing and it always is. This particular date, Date Night 2016, served as a reminder for both of us the importance of making time for each other. No matter how difficult it may be to carve out that time in our sometimes overwhelming schedules, our love for each other has to be strong enough to overcome these challenges. Besides, our children deserve to have the best of us as parents and we’re at our best when we (mom and dad) are intentional about giving the best of ourselves to each other.
If you find yourself in a similar place with your spouse, might I recommend you take a moment to remember why you fell in love with each other? If you have little ones, remember that it was and still is your love for one another that made it possible for God to bless you with the joy that is parenthood. I want my kids to see and acknowledge how much their mother and father love each other every day. How we love and treat each other as parents will play a huge part in determining who our sons and daughters marry and how they treat their future spouse. It can’t be just something we do every few months. I think it needs to be something we do every chance we get.